Sanctuary
One of the many perks of going to school to become a Life Coach, is that I have a handful of coaches at my finger tips to help me work through my own thoughts. As I was catching up with one of these wonderful people, not really intending to have an “Ahh Huh” moment out of the conversation, I found myself complaining about my house being a mess.
Since I got my dog 7 months ago, my life has shifted, obviously, and for the most part I am learning to adjust and seem to be doing fairly well. However, what I am not doing well with is keeping up with the endless amount of dirt that she tracks through the house, as if she is so proud of herself that she runs into every room spreading the joy of dirt everywhere. I am not a fan of this dirty dance.
Like the skilled coach that she is, my friend allowed me to share my thoughts and express my frustrations. Throughout the conversation, I found myself returning to the topic of my office, and every time I would mention it, I would take a deep breath and say, “I just want a space in my house that is mine.” I was already asking for what I wanted, but because I was so focused on my entire house being a mess, I was unable to see a very simple solution to the problem at hand. Very softly, and without attachment to my response, my friend asked a simple question. She said, “Talia, is there a space in your house that you can make into a sanctuary, or a space just for you? You keep talking about your office, can that be your space and your space alone?” My response, “Ha, yes, yes it can…. I hadn’t even thought about making a no puppy zone in my office, I love that idea.”
So today marks the third day in a row that my puppy is not allowed in my office. At first she was a bit peeved, and whined outside the door. However, in these past three days she is starting to understand our new arrangment; she now stops before she attempts to come in and the whining has stopped. Next week, I will re-organize my office and make it new and a more inspiring place to spend my time. What I love about this new behavior is that it is giving me a chance to set boundaries and maintain them, be committed to what is important to me, and create a bit more peace and ease in my life.
So my questions to you are these:
What seems to be a constant frustration in you life?
How can you shift your perception of this frustration in order to see what you haven’t been able to see?
What are you willing to do in order to lessen this frustration?
How would it feel to be free of this frustration?
I hope you are all well, share your thoughts if you feel like it.
Talia
